The Confidence Myth—You Don’t Need More of It

Have you ever told yourself, “If only I had more confidence, I would…”?

Whether speaking in front of an audience, launching a new project, or stepping into leadership, we convince ourselves that confidence is the missing ingredient. The truth is that confidence is not the starting point; it is the result.

So many women I coach believe they must feel confident before acting. Confidence is built through action, not before it. Think about a time you did something for the first time, driving, speaking publicly, or even sending a bold email. Were you confident before you did it? Probably not, but your confidence grew once you took and survived the leap. That is because confidence is built like a muscle—the more you use it, the stronger it gets.

What You Need First

Instead of waiting for confidence, focus on these three things:

✅ Courage—to take the first step even when you are scared.

✅ Clarity—on what you want, so fear does not dictate your decisions.

✅ Consistency—because small steps lead to significant results.

I have worked with countless women who lacked confidence at the start of our coaching journey. But by the end, they were not just more confident—they were unstoppable. Not because the fear disappeared but because they learned to move despite it.

Your Confidence Challenge

This week, I challenge you to take action on something you have been avoiding. Send the email, post the content, speak up, and do it.

The truth is, you don’t need more confidence. You need to start. And confidence will meet you along the way.