We live in an age where speed equals success. Everything around us celebrates the fast, the instant, and the visible. We scroll through perfectly curated lives on social media, watch people seemingly rise to fame overnight, and quietly begin to wonder, “Why not me? Why am I still here, waiting, working, believing, yet not seeing?”
A truth I have come to embrace deeply is that becoming takes time. Actual growth, the kind that transforms not just what you do but who you are, is never instant. It is slow, quiet, sometimes uncomfortable, and often unseen. It is the part of the journey that does not make the highlight reel, yet it is the foundation of everything that lasts.
In my coaching sessions, I often meet people who feel “stuck.” They have dreams, goals, and ideas that light them up inside, but when they do not see visible progress, they begin to doubt themselves. They compare their timeline with others and assume they are behind.
I always remind them: purpose does not operate on a stopwatch. Just because your story isn’t unfolding as quickly as someone else’s doesn’t mean it’s not unfolding exactly as it should.
Think of a seed planted in the ground. For a long time, there has been no visible sign of growth. The soil looks still, lifeless even, but underground, roots are forming, stretching deep, anchoring the seed for what is to come. If you uproot it too soon, you destroy the very process that ensures its survival.
That’s what growth feels like sometimes, buried, unseen, but full of quiet movement and purpose.
Growth is rarely comfortable. It often comes disguised as loss, redirection, or stillness. Yet, every uncomfortable moment has something to teach us, if we’re willing to listen.
What Becoming Really Looks Like
Becoming is not about arriving; it is about evolving. It is the lifelong journey of learning, unlearning, and growing into the person you’re meant to be.
It is choosing patience when everything in you wants to rush. It is showing up even when no one’s watching. It is embracing the lessons hidden in the waiting room of life.
Here are a few truths I have gathered on this journey:
- Be patient with the process.
Growth doesn’t happen overnight. The small, consistent steps, the quiet acts of faithfulness, are what build the foundation for your future. Don’t despise your small beginnings; they’re proof that something beautiful is taking shape.
- Be open to unlearning.
Sometimes, what is blocking our growth isn’t what we lack but what we need to let go of old beliefs, habits, or fears. Growth often means letting go of the familiar to make room for what is next.
- Celebrate progress, not perfection.
You may not be where you want to be yet, but you are not where you used to be either. Every step forward is a victory. Celebrate that.
- Keep faith alive.
Even when nothing seems to change on the outside, trust that transformation is happening within. God is never late. He’s always working behind the scenes, orchestrating the right people, opportunities, and timing.
Trusting the process doesn’t mean you stop dreaming or striving. It means you hold your dreams with open hands, allowing them to grow, shift, and mature in God’s perfect timing.
The waiting can feel long, but I promise you, it is never wasted. Every delay carries a lesson. Every detour strengthens your character. Every challenge chisels away the rough edges of impatience, pride, and doubt, revealing a more grounded, purposeful version of you.
You are becoming, even when it doesn’t look like it. You are growing, even when you feel stuck. You are being prepared, even when progress seems invisible.
So if you’re reading this and feel like you’re in the middle of an “in-between” season, neither where you were nor yet where you want to be, take heart.
Breathe. Reflect. Trust. You are not behind. You are becoming.
Your pace doesn’t define your purpose. Your process does. Trust it, and keep becoming.