December 2025

As the year ends, conversations quickly turn to goals. New plans. New habits. New versions of ourselves. Before you rush into writing lists and setting intentions, let me invite you to pause just for a moment. Before asking “What do I want to achieve next year?” Ask instead: “What did this year teach me about myself?” Growth that isn’t reflected on often gets repeated, and sometimes, that repetition is what keeps us stuck. There have been seasons in my own life where I set ambitious goals, only to realise later that I was chasing outcomes without listening to what my soul actually needed. I was busy striving, but not always aligned. This time of year has taught me the power of honest self-inquiry.  Not the kind that shames you, but the type that clarifies. Ask yourself gently: These questions aren’t meant to slow you down. They are intended to steady you. Sometimes we don’t need a new goal; we need a new way of relating to ourselves. You don’t have to enter the new year proving your worth. You already carry it. What you need is alignment between your values, your energy, and your choices. As you prepare for what’s next, remember this: You are not behind. You are not late. You are not lacking. You are learning, and when learning leads the way, growth becomes sustainable, peaceful, and deeply rooted. So before the new year begins, give yourself this gift: reflection without judgment, honesty without fear, and hope without pressure. The next chapter doesn’t need a perfect plan. It requires a grounded, self-aware, present you, and that is more than enough to begin again.

There is a quiet pressure that comes with a new year, to become someone else. To do more. To be more. To fix everything. What if the invitation isn’t transformation, but alignment? I’ve learned that true new beginnings don’t ask you to abandon yourself. They ask you to return to yourself. There were seasons when I chased growth that looked impressive but felt empty. I said yes when my spirit was saying no. I moved forward without listening inward, and eventually, I realised something important: growth without alignment leads to exhaustion. A new beginning asks better questions: Sometimes growth looks like slowing down. Sometimes it seems like redefining success. Sometimes it looks like choosing peace over pressure. You don’t need to enter the new year proving anything. You’re allowed to enter it listening. Discerning. Trusting that clarity will come step by step. This year, let your beginning be honest. Not louder. Not faster. Just truer. You’re not behind. You’re becoming, and that quietly, faithfully is more than enough.

As the year ends, many of us instinctively review our lives with a critical eye. We replay what didn’t happen. What we didn’t become. Where we think we fell short, but let me ask you something gently: What if you didn’t end this year judging yourself? For a long time, I believed reflection meant criticism. I thought growth required harsh honesty, the kind that leaves you feeling small, but I’ve learned something different. Growth flourishes in gentleness. There were years I entered January exhausted, carrying regret, disappointment, and unspoken grief from the year before. I didn’t realise that I was dragging emotional baggage into a season that deserved fresh air. Releasing doesn’t mean pretending the year was easy. It means acknowledging what hurt without letting it define you. It means saying, “This was hard, and I’m still standing.” Some seasons don’t give us breakthroughs. They provide us with depth. They teach us patience, boundaries, and faith, and those lessons matter just as much. Before this year ends, pause and ask: Ending the year gently isn’t a weakness. It is wisdom. You don’t need to punish yourself to grow. You need permission to rest, to reflect, and to let go. Close this chapter with grace. You did more than you think.

There is a version of yourself you longed for as a young woman, the one who had guidance, encouragement, and a voice cheering her on when the world doubted her. The woman you are today has the power to become exactly that person, not just for yourself, but for every young woman who will cross your path. I often reflect on my own journey and think: “If I could go back, what would I have wanted to hear? What would I have needed?” The truth is, I wouldn’t have needed perfection or flawless advice. I would have needed someone who believed in me, someone who reminded me of my worth, and someone who said: “Your dreams matter. Your voice matters. Your story matters.” Becoming the woman you needed isn’t about heroics or doing everything right. It’s about showing up, with empathy, courage, and authenticity. 1. Start With Yourself You can’t pour from an empty cup. The first step is nurturing yourself, your mind, your heart, your dreams. Speak kindly to yourself. Give yourself grace for mistakes. Celebrate your wins, however small. When I first started coaching young women, I realized that before I could inspire them, I had to motivate myself daily. Journaling, affirmations, prayer, and reflection became tools that grounded me. They reminded me that I am enough, capable, and worthy of the dreams I hold. 2. Share Your Story Your story has power. Every challenge you have overcome, every lesson you’ve learned, and every fear you’ve faced can guide someone else. Young women need to see real, relatable examples of resilience and courage, not just highlight reels. I remember sharing my story with a group of young women, how I started Proudtobeme, the obstacles I faced, and the moments I doubted myself. Afterward, several came up to me, saying, “I thought I was the only one struggling with this.” Your transparency can be a lifeline. 3. Be Present Sometimes, becoming the woman you needed doesn’t require grand gestures. It’s being present, listening without judgment, mentoring with patience, or offering encouragement when it’s needed most. A simple conversation, a thoughtful note, or showing up consistently can have a ripple effect. Young women remember those moments, the times someone genuinely cared, believed, and invested in them. 4. Challenge Stereotypes and Expectations We live in a world that often boxes women into roles or tells us how we should behave. Becoming the woman you needed means challenging those narratives. Show young women that they can lead, create, and thrive on their own terms. Every time I mentor or speak to young women about entrepreneurship, leadership, or creativity, I remind them: “Your worth isn’t defined by your circumstances, your background, or what others say you should be. You define yourself.” 5. Invest in Their Growth Teaching skills, sharing opportunities, or guiding someone through a challenge are ways to invest in the women who come after you. Mentorship doesn’t have to be formal, it can be as simple as a supportive conversation, helping someone refine their ideas, or introducing them to someone who can open doors. I’ve seen young women bloom when given even small opportunities to explore their potential. And the beauty is, the more we invest in others, the more we grow ourselves, learning patience, empathy, and leadership along the way. 6. Lead With Empathy and Grace Becoming the woman you needed means understanding that everyone is on a journey. People will stumble. They will doubt themselves. They will test boundaries. Respond with patience, guidance, and encouragement. I often tell young women, “Your mistakes do not define you. How you respond and grow from them does.” Being that voice of compassion and clarity can leave a lasting impact. 7. Leave a Legacy of Possibility Ultimately, becoming the woman you needed is about creating space for others to dream bigger. When you model courage, resilience, and authenticity, you plant seeds of possibility. Young women who encounter you are inspired not only to survive but to thrive. Every time a young woman takes a step she thought was impossible, whether starting a business, pursuing education, or standing up for herself, you have played a part. You have become the guide, the cheerleader, and the mentor you once longed for. Becoming the woman you needed isn’t a destination; it’s a daily choice. Show up for yourself. Show up for others. Speak truth. Lead with love. And watch how your presence transforms lives, one young woman at a time. When you become the woman you needed, you don’t just change one life, you change generations.

There are seasons in life when your purpose, the thing that used to light you up, feels quiet. The fire that once fueled your dreams dims, and you might find yourself asking, “Am I even going in the right direction?” Trust me, this is more common than we like to admit. Even the most driven people experience moments when inspiration feels out of reach. I remember a time in my own journey when I felt this deeply. After years of building Proudtobeme, mentoring young women, and running programs that touched lives, I found myself staring at a blank page, unsure of what to write next. My energy felt drained, my creativity slowed, and I began to question whether my work still mattered. The purpose that once seemed so loud had grown quiet. If you are in a similar place, here’s what I’ve learned, and what has helped me reconnect with my sense of calling. 1. Acknowledge the Quiet The first step is to recognize and accept that this season exists. You don’t need to force inspiration or beat yourself up for feeling lost. Life has rhythms, and sometimes purpose pauses so that growth, reflection, or healing can happen. I remember telling myself, “It’s okay to be still. I don’t have to perform or produce to prove I’m valuable.” Acknowledgment doesn’t mean surrender. It means honoring the fact that inspiration isn’t a constant flame, it has its seasons, and that’s natural. 2. Reconnect With Your Why Often, when purpose grows quiet, we’ve lost sight of the original reason we started. Go back to your “why.” Why did you begin your journey in the first place? What were the moments that made your heart beat faster, the ones that made you feel alive? For me, it was remembering the young women I had met who had no one cheering them on, no mentor guiding them, no voice to say, “You can do this.” Reconnecting with that first spark reminded me that my purpose isn’t about accolades, it’s about impact when we reconnect with our “why,” even a whisper of inspiration can grow into momentum. 3. Give Yourself Permission to Rest Sometimes the quiet comes because you’ve been running non-stop. Burnout can masquerade as a loss of purpose. Take time to rest, reflect, and recharge. This doesn’t mean giving up; it means honoring your human needs. I’ve learned that some of my best ideas come after a long walk, a quiet morning with coffee, or journaling my thoughts. Rest creates space for clarity. It’s in the stillness that inspiration often finds us again. 4. Shift Your Perspective Feeling uninspired doesn’t always mean your purpose is gone, it might mean your approach needs a shift. Look at your journey from a different angle. Explore new ways to express your gifts or serve others. For example, if writing or speaking feels heavy, try connecting in smaller, more personal ways, mentoring one young woman, hosting an intimate conversation, or even sending notes of encouragement. Often, small actions reignite the fire you thought had faded. 5. Seek Inspiration From Others We are rarely meant to do life alone. Surround yourself with people who uplift, challenge, and remind you of what’s possible. Attend a conference, read books that stir your soul, or have coffee with someone whose journey inspires you. I recall a time I met a young woman who had started her own initiative to empower girls in her community. Listening to her passion reminded me that inspiration is contagious, sometimes all it takes is seeing someone else’s light to reignite your own. 6. Embrace the Small Wins When inspiration is quiet, focus on small victories. Celebrate tiny steps toward your goals, acts of kindness, or moments when your presence touched someone’s life. Small wins create momentum and remind you that purpose doesn’t always announce itself with grandeur. I’ve often found that one encouraging message from a young woman I mentor, or a simple note from someone who benefited from a program, can bring back a sense of purpose stronger than any motivational quote ever could. 7. Trust the Process Finally, trust that quiet seasons are part of the journey. Purpose doesn’t disappear, it evolves. Sometimes, the quiet is God, life, or the universe asking you to pause, reflect, and prepare for the next chapter. When I embrace this truth, I move with patience and faith, knowing that inspiration will return, and when it does, it’s often louder, clearer, and more aligned than before. Remember, your purpose doesn’t have an expiration date. Seasons come and go, inspiration ebbs and flows, but the impact you were born to make remains. Lean into the quiet, listen, and allow yourself the grace to grow, even when the fire seems dim. Sometimes, it’s in the quiet that the deepest calling is being prepared.

There is a story I often think about when I reflect on the brilliance of today’s young people. Itis the story of a quiet boy named Daniel. Daniel was the kind of teenager who blended into the background, gentle, observant, and always doodling in the margins of his notebook. If you walked into a room, you might not notice him at first. If you took a moment to pay attention, you’d see the spark in his eyes, like he had entire worlds spinning in his mind. He joined one of our Proudtobeme programs reluctantly, almost forced by a teacher who insisted he needed “exposure.” On the first day, he barely spoke. He avoided eye contact, but he listened, and sometimes that’s where transformation begins. During a digital session, Daniel shared something unexpected. He quietly presented a piece of art he created, a simple digital sketch of a girl looking into a mirror with the words “You are more than what you see.” The room fell silent. His classmates stared in amazement. Stories like Daniel’s remind us that creativity is not just a talent, it’s a lifeline for young people. It is the language they use to make sense of the world. It is how they express pain, hope, ideas, and identity. And that is why the future belongs to the young people willing to think differently. We are raising a generation of creators, dreamers who don’t fit traditional boxes. For a long time, success for young people was measured by a narrow checklist: good grades, a respectable career path, and a life that made sense on paper, but today’s world no longer operates on that checklist. The most sought-after skills are not memorization or perfection; they’re creativity, innovation, adaptability, empathy, and storytelling. Qualities that flourish when young people are allowed to explore beyond the classroom. At Proudtobeme, we see every day how a young person’s creativity can unlock confidence that academics alone never ignited. The future is shifting, and young people are shaping it with their creativity. Innovation begins when young people are allowed to imagine freely One of the things we emphasize in our programs is design thinking, teaching young people not just to follow instructions but to solve real problems. When we let them imagine solutions, they don’t think small. They think boldly and differently. Creativity gives youth the power to rewrite the narratives they’ve been given. Young people today face pressures older generations never imagined, filters, comparison, online perfection, constant noise, and identity confusion. The world is loud, and it often tells them they are not enough, but creativity gives them a voice more audible than the noise. One girl used digital photography to express her battle with anxiety. A 16-year-old boy created a short film about grief following the loss of a parent. A group of girls built online content for their small handmade jewellery business. These are not just “projects.” These are survival tools. These are ways young people reclaim their stories. When a young person learns they can shape their own narrative, they begin to shape their own future. The creators of today are the leaders of tomorrow. We have seen young people apply their creative skills far beyond digital screens. Creativity is a seed; leadership is the tree it grows into. When young people learn how to express themselves, problem-solve, collaborate, ideate, and think independently, they naturally develop leadership instincts. They begin influencing others. They take initiative. They dare to try. They become creators not just of content but of communities, initiatives, and change. Creativity cannot bloom alone; it needs community. One of the biggest myths about creativity is that it’s a solo sport. It isn’t. Young people need spaces where they feel safe to explore, experiment, and even fail. That’s what Proudtobeme is at its core, a creative community. We have watched young people blossom because someone finally told them, “Your ideas matter.”We have seen friendships form because creativity brought them together. We have watched confidence grow because they were seen, heard, and encouraged. Young people do not become creators by accident; they become creators when someone hands them the tools and says, “Go ahead. Try.” The future belongs to creators because the world needs new thinkers Everything around us was shaped by someone’s creativity, a design, a story, a solution, an idea. The next generation will inherit a world full of complex challenges, and textbooks alone cannot prepare them for it. Creativity can. Creative young people are resilient. They adapt quickly. They embrace change. They find joy in innovation. They see possibilities in problems, and that is why the future belongs to them. A message to every young person Suppose you feel different, good. If you think outside the box, it’s fantastic. If you don’t fit the usual mold, perfect. You were not meant to fit in. You were meant to create. Your ideas matter.Your imagination is needed. Your creativity is power. One day, the world will thank you for how boldly you thought, how fearlessly you created, and how bravely you changed things. The rising creators are not coming. They are already here, and if we support them well, they will reshape the future beautifully.

We live in a world obsessed with speed: fast results, instant feedback, overnight success. We are told that the quicker we achieve something, the more successful we are. Yet, real growth, the kind that transforms you, rarely follows that timeline. It is often subtle, quiet, gradual, and invisible at first. The older I get, the more I realise: the most meaningful progress happens beneath the surface long before it shows. Slow growth is not failure. Slow growth is the foundation. When people feel stuck, the most common phrase I hear is: “I’m not growing. Nothing is changing.” When we begin to look closer, we see evidence of growth everywhere: These may not look like dramatic achievements. They will not trend online, but they are the quiet victories that show your inner world is expanding. Growth is not only seen in promotions, platforms, or applause. It is seen in emotional maturity, inner peace, resilience, and self-respect. One of my favourite metaphors in nature is this: A tree grows down before it grows up. Before anything appears above the soil, roots are digging deep beneath it. The roots are invisible, but essential. They anchor the tree. They find water. They ensure stability. One storm could destroy a tall tree, unless its roots are strong. Your life is the same. Unseen progress is often the most important: healing deep wounds, strengthening identity, learning discipline, and developing character. People admire the fruit, but the roots took years to develop. There is a pressure in culture that says: “Be more. Do more. Achieve faster.” Your pace is not a problem. Your pace is part of your design. Some flowers bloom in spring. Some bloom in summer. Some bloom in late autumn.All bloom in their season. What matters is not how fast you bloom. What matters is that you bloom. When you believe you are behind, you create anxiety where there should be peace. There is no universal timeline for purpose. Some people discover their calling at 19. Others at 49. Neither is late. Neither is early. They are right on time. There are seasons when life looks slow. Bills need paying. Children need to be raised. Responsibilities feel heavier than dreams. You look around and see others accelerating, travelling, building businesses, becoming public figures, and it is easy to think, “I should be further by now.” What no one posts on social media is that: You are not stuck. You are being strengthened. There are seasons when success looks like survival. You got out of bed. You prayed when you wanted to give up. You chose hope when fear was easier. You kept showing up, even when life didn’t make sense. That is a strength. Slow growth honours the reality that not every season is a harvest. Some seasons are winter, and even in winter, life is happening beneath the ground. Trees do not say, “I am dead.” They rest, conserve energy, and prepare for spring. When life pauses, we assume something is wrong. We panic. We think God has forgotten us, but waiting seasons are often preparation seasons. When nothing is moving outside, everything is moving inside. You are being shaped for the next chapter. During slow seasons, ask: Waiting does not delay your destiny; it builds your capacity. Celebrate the Invisible We are so quick to celebrate visible results: new jobs, new homes, new opportunities, new relationships, but what about the invisible achievements? These are victories, too. They may not show on your résumé, but they show in your character. They shape who you are becoming. Celebrate: You are changing, even if you can’t measure it yet. Keep Showing Up Consistency is a form of courage. Some people wait for motivation to act, but success belongs to those who act consistently, even when they don’t feel like it. Slow growth requires persistence. Water the seed. Tend the soil. Keep praying. Keep learning. Keep loving.Keep believing. Progress doesn’t always announce itself. Sometimes it only reveals itself looking back. One day, you will say, “I didn’t even notice I was growing, but I have.” The goal is not perfection. The goal is evolution. You don’t need to be who you were last year. You don’t need to fit into old roles. You don’t need to shrink to make others comfortable. The valid reward of growth is that you become more yourself. And that is enough. Slow growth builds: These cannot be rushed. They must be lived. If life feels slow right now, breathe. Nothing is wrong with you. Nothing is missing. Something is forming. Slow growth is still growth. Silent progress is still progress.Invisible miracles are still miracles. Trust the process that is shaping you. Trust the timing that is wiser than your desire for speed. One day, others will marvel at the tree. Only you will know how long the roots took.

The Art of Listening to Your Life There are times in life when the noise outside becomes louder than the voice within. Expectations, opinions, deadlines, responsibilities, comparisons, they compete for attention until we begin to forget something essential: life is always speaking. The question is, are we listening? Listening to your life is a form of wisdom. It is not mystical. It is convenient. It means paying attention to the patterns, the desires, the inner nudges, the restlessness, the peace, the closed doors, the open ones. Too often, we rush through seasons without asking the one question that could change everything: “What is my life trying to tell me right now?” In my work as a coach, I have seen people run faster, work harder, and achieve more, yet feel empty or confused. It was not that they lacked ambition. It was that they were disconnected from themselves. They were moving, but not aligned. Achieving, but not fulfilled. Doing, but not becoming. Life does not whisper because it wants to be ignored. It whispers because accurate guidance requires attention. Listening Begins with Stillness Stillness is not inactivity. It is intentional awareness. It is choosing to pause in a world that glorifies rushing. When we slow down, we learn to notice what we often overlook. These are clues. Life is constantly communicating through the language of desire, discomfort, longing, and intuition. But we only notice when we slow down. Have you ever felt a deep resistance toward something, a job, a relationship, a commitment, yet told yourself, “I just need to push through”? Sometimes, persistence is noble. Other times, it is a sign that we are forcing what is not meant for us. You don’t have to break down before you pay attention. Listening early saves pain. One of the biggest misconceptions is that our desires are selfish, but desire is often directed. The things that stir your heart are signals. The situations that frustrate you are invitations. The dreams that refuse to go away are not accidents. Listening to your life means taking these seriously. I worked with a client who, for years, said she wanted to write. Yet she ran from it because it felt impractical. She focused on the “sensible” things, but every time she saw someone publish a book, something inside her ached. One day, she said, “I feel jealous when others do what I know I’m meant to do.” That honesty set her free. Jealousy was not about others; it was a mirror. Within months, she started writing. Today, she is preparing to publish her first book. She says, “For the first time, my life feels like my own.” When we ignore desire, we live someone else’s story. When we listen, we begin to live ours. The Body Keeps Score Listening is not only mental. Your body speaks too. One woman I coached stayed in a job that made her miserable because the salary was good. She could not sleep. Her body rebelled. Her joy disappeared. When she finally resigned, she said, “I didn’t realise how much weight I was carrying until it dropped.” The body is not dramatic. It is honest. Your life is wiser than you think. Listening Helps Us Release What No Longer Fits There is a moment in adulthood when you realise: the version of yourself that got you here cannot take you further. Growth always asks for release. Old roles. Old habits. Old narratives. Old identities. Even old dreams. It is not betrayal. It is evolution. Silence Is Not Emptiness, It Is Information Sometimes, life gives us silence. We pray and hear nothing. We plan and see no progress. We try, and the door remains closed. Silence often means: “Be patient. Something is forming.” In these seasons, the work is internal: Just because nothing appears to be moving on the outside doesn’t mean transformation isn’t happening within. Roots grow before branches. One of the greatest gifts God gave us is discernment, but we often silence it. We doubt ourselves. We outsource decisions. We chase signs. Yet more often than not, the answer is already within. Listening to your life means trusting this inner wisdom: You don’t need external validation for every step. You don’t need committee approval for your destiny. Wisdom is within you. Practical Ways to Listen to Your Life Listening is a practice. Here are gentle, human ways to begin: Create quiet moments. Walk, sit in silence, breathe, reflect. Clarity grows in quiet. Write what’s true. Journaling is not about grammar. It is honesty on paper. Pay attention to patterns. What keeps repeating? What keeps tugging at you? Notice what drains you. Exhaustion is information. Notice what energises you. Joy is direction. Ask better questions. Not “What should I do?”, but “What is true for me right now?” Take small steps. Life does not reveal the whole map. Just the next step. Listening Is the Beginning of Alignment When you listen to your life, truly listen, decisions become clearer. You begin to choose what is right instead of what is easy. You start building a life that reflects your values instead of your fears. You may disappoint others, but you stop disappointing yourself. You may not know the whole plan, but peace becomes your companion. You may not see immediate results, but you will feel alignment. Alignment is success before the outcome. Your life is not a random collection of events. It is a story. A journey. A calling. And it has always been speaking. Through your desires. Through your discomfort. Through your joys. Through your tears. Through your longings. Through your tiredness. Through your hope.Listening to your life is not selfish. It is stewardship. It is honouring the gift of who you are and who you are becoming.