November 2025

We don’t talk enough about emotional strength, not the kind that looks like perfection on the outside, but the type that allows you to be whole on the inside. Emotional strength isn’t a luxury. It’s the foundation of leadership, purpose, relationships, and spiritual maturity. It’s what helps us stand when life knocks the wind out of us, and what allows us to love, think, and live with clarity. Over the years, as a coach, mentor, and mother, I’ve come to realise something important:Many people are not breaking down because life is hard; they’re breaking down because they never learned how to be emotionally honest. If we are honest, many of us grew up in environments where strength meant silence. You don’t cry. You don’t ask for help. You pretend you are okay. You keep pushing, but suppressed emotions don’t disappear; they quietly settle into our thoughts, habits, and even our bodies. Let me ask you a question: when was the last time you paused long enough to check in with yourself? Not the version of you who shows up for others. Not the you who is always working, giving, supporting, or fixing. I mean the inner you, the one who feels, hopes, fears, wonders, and sometimes quietly aches. Emotional strength begins with honesty. It is the courage to say: Emotional strength is not about holding everything together. It’s the ability to: Emotional strength is the courage to be vulnerable. To ask for help. To rest without guilt.To say “no” when your soul is whispering for space. Strength is recognising your humanity, and not denying it. Many of us carry emotions from childhood wounds, disappointments we never talked about, betrayals we pretended didn’t hurt, dreams that didn’t work out, seasons where we had to “hold it together” for everyone else, but part of maturity is unlearning the emotional habits we developed out of survival. Healing the hidden you requires letting go of: Your soul cannot bloom where it is constantly pretending. Here are small but powerful steps to begin healing the hidden you: 1. Name what you feel. Give your emotions language. Undiagnosed emotions grow into dysfunction. 2. Speak kindly to yourself. Your internal voice shapes your identity more than external validation ever will. 3. Create safe spaces for expression. Write. Pray. Talk. We are not designed to heal alone. 4. Let your body rest. Physical exhaustion magnifies emotional overwhelm. Rest is spiritual. 5. Forgive yourself for not knowing better. Healing includes releasing the older version of you who was doing her best with what she had. 6. Let relationships reflect your value, not your wounds. Only stay where you are respected, not tolerated. There is a version of you that is emotionally whole, rooted, calm, wise, steady, grounded, and joyful. That version of you is not found in more achievements,but in more alignment. Healing the hidden, you will change how you speak, lead, love, and live. It will change your relationships, your confidence, and your calling. It will return your voice to you, the genuine, undiluted, beautifully authentic you. You deserve to be whole. You deserve peace. You deserve a life where your inner world is as beautiful as your outer one. Emotional healing is not a destination. It is a lifestyle. A journey. A becoming.

We live in an age where speed equals success. Everything around us celebrates the fast, the instant, and the visible. We scroll through perfectly curated lives on social media, watch people seemingly rise to fame overnight, and quietly begin to wonder, “Why not me? Why am I still here, waiting, working, believing, yet not seeing?” A truth I have come to embrace deeply is that becoming takes time. Actual growth, the kind that transforms not just what you do but who you are, is never instant. It is slow, quiet, sometimes uncomfortable, and often unseen. It is the part of the journey that does not make the highlight reel, yet it is the foundation of everything that lasts. In my coaching sessions, I often meet people who feel “stuck.” They have dreams, goals, and ideas that light them up inside, but when they do not see visible progress, they begin to doubt themselves. They compare their timeline with others and assume they are behind. I always remind them: purpose does not operate on a stopwatch. Just because your story isn’t unfolding as quickly as someone else’s doesn’t mean it’s not unfolding exactly as it should. Think of a seed planted in the ground. For a long time, there has been no visible sign of growth. The soil looks still, lifeless even, but underground, roots are forming, stretching deep, anchoring the seed for what is to come. If you uproot it too soon, you destroy the very process that ensures its survival. That’s what growth feels like sometimes, buried, unseen, but full of quiet movement and purpose. Growth is rarely comfortable. It often comes disguised as loss, redirection, or stillness. Yet, every uncomfortable moment has something to teach us, if we’re willing to listen. What Becoming Really Looks Like Becoming is not about arriving; it is about evolving. It is the lifelong journey of learning, unlearning, and growing into the person you’re meant to be. It is choosing patience when everything in you wants to rush. It is showing up even when no one’s watching. It is embracing the lessons hidden in the waiting room of life. Here are a few truths I have gathered on this journey: Growth doesn’t happen overnight. The small, consistent steps, the quiet acts of faithfulness, are what build the foundation for your future. Don’t despise your small beginnings; they’re proof that something beautiful is taking shape. Sometimes, what is blocking our growth isn’t what we lack but what we need to let go of old beliefs, habits, or fears. Growth often means letting go of the familiar to make room for what is next. You may not be where you want to be yet, but you are not where you used to be either. Every step forward is a victory. Celebrate that. Even when nothing seems to change on the outside, trust that transformation is happening within. God is never late. He’s always working behind the scenes, orchestrating the right people, opportunities, and timing. Trusting the process doesn’t mean you stop dreaming or striving. It means you hold your dreams with open hands, allowing them to grow, shift, and mature in God’s perfect timing. The waiting can feel long, but I promise you, it is never wasted. Every delay carries a lesson. Every detour strengthens your character. Every challenge chisels away the rough edges of impatience, pride, and doubt, revealing a more grounded, purposeful version of you. You are becoming, even when it doesn’t look like it. You are growing, even when you feel stuck. You are being prepared, even when progress seems invisible. So if you’re reading this and feel like you’re in the middle of an “in-between” season, neither where you were nor yet where you want to be, take heart. Breathe. Reflect. Trust. You are not behind. You are becoming. Your pace doesn’t define your purpose. Your process does. Trust it, and keep becoming.